“Both abundance and lack [of abundance] exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend." - Sarah Ban Breathnach
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Say I'm determined to get to bed earlier, but my husband is enjoying my company as we sit together on the couch watching TV. I love sitting on the couch with my husband watching TV. So, I end up going to bed one or two hours later than I should have.
Or maybe one of the kids comes up to me and says, "Mom, can I _____?" (insert activity that requires me to drive them somewhere.) I already have so much guilt over all the nos I've already said, so even if I'm tired, I'll probably say yes.
The hardest of all, now that summer is here, are the invitations. Weekly swim parties. A Fourth of July barbecue. Family dinners. I so badly want to say yes! Maybe if I pace before and after? I don't know. The best thing is for me to Just Say No. I may be able to tolerate a tiny bit of yes, if I limit it to one hour or less, once in awhile. But I'm afraid I'm going to have to learn to embrace the hard "no."
So, here it is: No, I cannot make family functions right now, unless it's a once in a lifetime event, like my in-laws 50th wedding anniversary. Even that, I'm taking off early. No, I can't make it to your party. No, I can't drive you places. No, I can't stay up any later. No, I can't.
Embracing the Summer of No!